Meta-Coaching is a methodology of professional coaching using NLP and Neuro-Semantics and it’s both unlike most other psychological approaches and unlike other approaches to coaching. Here are the nine major advantages of Meta-Coaching:
Meta-Coaching is a practical and results-oriented methodology that draws upon over 300 specific tool and techniques (patterns) from NLP and Neuro-Semantics. There are specific patterns for resolving features, managing and controlling emotions, increasing confidence and self-esteem, resolving inner conflicts and the list goes on. Each of these techniques can be used in session as well as by you on your own in various situations in your life to achieve specific results.
Coaching is oriented to setting and achieving objectives. Focus is placed on clarifying outcomes, determining what is in the way, and addressing the “interferences” effectively. Issues of your personal history are explored in a practical and results-oriented manner only when relevant to your current objectives (less chatter, more get at ‘er).
As a result, sessions are intentional. Each session begins by setting a specific objective agreed upon by coach and client and any discussion/exploration/work done during the session is done only if relevant to your objective.
Active and Dynamic
Coaching is a collaborative process that engages you in an enjoyable and strategic process to remove obstacles and achieve objectives more easily and effectively.
It is not about talking, it’s about doing. The coaching process is an active and dynamic process involving:
• Clarifying objectives and strategizing (planning and decision making)
• Learning: About yourself, your personality and human/performance psychology
• Accessing internal resources
• Updating ineffective strategies
• Uncovering blind spots (awareness/self-discovery)
• Resolving “unfinished business”
So what are we really doing? Meta-Coaching involves listening, supporting and guiding. It involves exploring, questioning, discovering. It uses specific techniques for changework, tools and tasks. At times it may involve challenging, holding you accountable and helping you see how you have been preventing yourself from achieving what you want.
Practical and Useful Self-Awareness
Meta-Coaching helps you gain insight,but it’s a special kind of insight. Insight into why things are a certain way rarely has practical value. The insight people need is often not based on distant past events, but on the present. People can’t see themselves and so, are blind in the face of their own experience. Meta-coaching helps you see your blindspots and make appropriate adjustments.
NLP and Meta-Coaching help you understand how a problem works, how you “work” as a person, and how things can be changed. “How” insight reveals to you the elements of your experience, how they fit together and what is causing what, so we know what to do.
Doing What Works
Much of psychology has been based on the hidden assumption that something is broken and needs to be fixed, but trying to fix what is broken is rarely effective, mostly because nothing is broken. Instead of looking for what isn’t working and trying repair it, NLP and Meta-Coaching look for what works and then do more of it.
Many approaches are based on a theory of how things work and … That it should work…. But don’t include what to do if it’s not working, Meta-Coaching is based on feedback, meaning we constantly adjust our approach based on the results we get. If what we are doing isn’t working we take it as valuable information and do something else
It’s easy for an approach to be based on one size fits all model but the reality is that change and achievement is an individual process. what works for someone else might not work for you. Meta-Coaching is based on the Personal Strengths model according to which different people have different thinking styles/personal strengths when it comes to changework. Effective coaching will work with these and not against them; because the methods used are adapted to you and your personality and preferences it becomes easier, more natural and more enjoyable.
Much coaching is advice-based. this means the coach’s role is to tell you what to do. the problem with this is that someone else’s advice might not fit for you. Meta-Coaching facilitates you finding your own solutions, appropriate for you at this time so decisions, objectives and courses of action fit for you and come from you. The result is improved-decision making abilities, problem-solving skills and increased self-reliance.
Human psychology and experience works as a system. To achieve objectives and improve performance, changes need to be made at different levels at different times. Most coaching is purely behavioural (do this, don’t do that) whereas as most therapy is purely cognitive.
Meta-Coaching works with the different levels of the human system because all are valid and valuable:
• Beliefs and assumptions
• Identity and mission
• Thinking styles
Meta-Coaching includes a systematic methodology for determining what to do when.